About Us

      This site is for Abused Women.   I chose this new

website name "Abused Hurt Heart", because that is what 

MY personal heart has been through for years, abuse and

and hurt, thus I could think of no better possible name.  Yes, this site is for WOMEN only.  (We know some men are abused also in domestic situations, and we are not discriminating.  However, I and several friends, ARE WOMEN, and we want to help other women if possible.   Hence the reason it's a for women.)  (Men you are welcome to come and READ our site but membership and postings are for women only ~~ unless you want to donate or post something helpful.)  

      Actually, I think it would do MANY men good to come read some of the womanly heartbreak herein... perhaps THESE MEN would have a true change of heart for their women.  Perhaps they would develop a true grateful heart and learn to truly LOVE, APPRECIATE, AND BE GRATEFUL FOR THE WONDERFUL WOMAN IN THEIR LIVES THAT HAS WAITED, IN MANY CASES, YEARS, FOR THEM TO GET A GRIP ON THEIR RAGES, AND THEIR MINDS, AND CHANGE!!

     I will mention God and the Bible here.  I will not preach however, this is MY site and I will mention verses and my own personal beliefs as I like.  (One reason for this is because the Bible explicitly EXPLAINS to men HOW they should treat their WIVES.)  Husbands should always protect their wives and be gentle, understanding and loving toward them.  The Bible CLEARLY states "be NOT HARSH with your wife".  What part of this do some men NOT get I wonder??

     Remain anonymous if you wish to.  I, myself, will remain so for the time being.  Several of US are involved with this site and I am still in my marriage.  My husband would never let me rest if he knew about this site or my involvement.  I will not endure his rage, threats or bullying, thus I will pick a fake name for myself to protect me.  In the past months I see God opening my husband's eyes to what he's actually doing.  HE IS AWARE of how he's acting and many times he will contain his rage, and censor himself.  Today was a particularly BAD day when he did not.  It's truly sad.  I told him he truly needs mental help with or without me.  I LOVE HIM.  I told him that today.  I have also told him in the past few months if he keeps going like he is, there will come a time when I no longer want him to hold me.  

     Even, right now, money being no object, I would go buy myself a home and move there.  Yes, I do love my husband but I am so very tired of him controlling me, isolating me from my family, and taking his frustrations out on me.  There's much he can't control so he attempts to control everything about me to make himself feel better.  I'm a good woman, good wife and good mother.  Two therapist have told me this.  They have also told him to appreciate me, stand with me and behind me.   I rarely have a drink, I don't smoke, never have done drugs (his first wife did), don't cheat on him, I make a home, wash, cook, clean, and support him in all ways.  I quit work doing covid because we were laid off.  When they called us back he insisted I not go back using covid for the excuse.  That was in 2021.  Now he DOESN'T want me to get another job telling me "You will not have time to do all the things I need you to do."  Then he added "...and if you begin working making your own money you won't need me anymore..."  YES, he's afraid of losing me and with good reason because he knows how he's treated me.   

     I will have my own money soon and be able to go buy a home for myself and my pets.  He can change and we will stay married or I will live without him at that point.  I'm not 20 years old anymore.  I don't want his mind games and abuse.  I want love, kindness, understanding, gentleness, conversation, a best friend in a husband.  I want a home full of love and joy, gentleness and gratitude, kindness and peace.  I have been following several You Tube mentors to manifest these things in my life, in my husband and myself.

     " I am the daughter of a God who is not moved by the world.  My God goes before me and I will not fear. "

     " God has not given me the spirit of fear but of power, of love, and of a sound mind."